Many mothers complain that their child does not want to communicate with other children, prefers to stay away from noisy games and chooses quiet, intellectual or creative entertainment. Mom is surprised by the fact that the child develops well, is very clever and smart, at home shows its leadership qualities, and in games with other children just keeps away.
Before you understand this question, answer yourself: "Why should a child run around with children in the yard or play noisy games?" Carl Jung, the founder of deep psychology, singled out two types of people( including children): introverts andextroverts. This is the peculiarity of the human character. Impulsive extroverts do not understand slow introverts, and vice versa.
More often such questions arise in families where brothers and sisters of both types live. Very often mothers are extroverts, aimed at communication, the desire to be the center of attention. For such mothers, this is the most important source of energy. That is why they do not understand children at all, who do not waste energy outside, thereby strengthening internal resources. So, they are quite enough of the energy that they have.
Another problem - the confidence of moms that the child should be able to stand up for himself, be persistent and popular in his circle of communication. However, there are many examples where introverts achieve success much faster than self-confident extraverts. Unfortunately, in such a situation the child suffers most of all. After all, it is in front of him is not an easy choice: to meet the expectations of the parents or stay true to yourself. Allow its features not to go out under your concern.
A few recommendations for parents whose children prefer to play alone:
- Let the child be alone when he wants it. Even if at the moment you think it's better to play with other children.
- Invent him such a leisure, during which he can reveal his abilities: draw something, make a hand-made from improvised materials or simply assemble a designer.
- Let him express his emotions not verbally, but creatively.
- Do not choose with whom your child will be better to play. He himself will find a "kindred" soul.
The only exception when it's worth to sound the alarm is the child's excessive infatuation with a computer that replaces the child with live communication or creative activity. In this case, it is just right to "pull out" the child to other children more often and to focus it on other hobbies. Lovely mother, appreciate in your child what nature has already awarded him!